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You Can't Change People
You cannot change the people around you,
their weather, their wounds,
the storms they refuse to name.
You cannot reach inside another soul
and rearrange the furniture of their becoming.
You cannot soften a heart
that has chosen its armour,
nor rewrite the language
they are not ready to unlearn.
But... you can change
the people around you.
You can step out of rooms
that echo your smallest self.
You can loosen the grip
of familiar gravity.
You can choose proximity
as an act of devotion to your own becoming.
Not everyone is meant to walk beside you
into the next version of your life.
Some are chapters,
necessary, shaping,
but not eternal.
And this is the quiet power:
not forcing transformation upon others,
but permitting it within yourself.
Because when you change
what you tolerate, what you honour,
what you answer “yes” to
the circle shifts.
Different conversations find you.
Different energies recognise you.
Different souls sit across from you
and feel like home.
So no,
you cannot change them.
But you can change
who gets to stay.
And sometimes
that is the most loving,
most honest transformation
of all.
