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What Happened?
I have always heard that the older you get, the faster time flies. I definitely have proof, as I see how long it's been since I've been on here to read the wonderful writings of others, but not to write anything myself.
My life has always been one of ups or downs, happiness or sadness, war or peace, and I'm sure after 70+ years it's not going to change. Right now, according to whoever, I'm in the so-called Golden Years, so I've done the much-needed things such as updating my Last Will and Testament added a POD on my bank accounts and vehicles.
I worked in the hospice field for many years; I've seen so many families put in situations where they were lost as to how to deal with not only their personal grief but also the lack of knowing what their loved one really wanted to do with what they had. Leaving this world is not a pleasant subject to think about, but if you don't leave instructions on what you want done, you're putting more pressure on those left behind. The worst scenario is the arguments and division of the family when all one has to do is let their wishes be known. I've witnessed many situations where some have had plenty of money and assets to those who barely had the clothes on their back yet, in most cases there were upsets. A lady lost her husband; they were comfortable but far from being on the rich side with possessions yet; here arrived family members the day after the funeral, instead of consoling his widow, just taking whatever they thought they wanted. That was probably one of thousands of events. Take time, people; don't let others decide for you. Think about who you would like to see Aunt Gertie's ring have and appreciate, and do it for yourself so you can be in the best place to rest in peace. If you know there will be a major upset in your family ( pretty well, my own) after I sent what items to those I wanted them to have, what is left of my property- cabins, house, and vehicles I'm leaving to the American Indians, with all signed, sealed, and to be delivered upon my final breath. I have to say this before I close out whatever you want to call this: this was not an easy task for me to deal with, and it didn't happen in a few days or even weeks; I sat many an hour analyzing my decisions, and then once I thought I had it done, I took another few days, read it again, and then made it permanent. Sure, I can change it, but I doubt I will, as this was the best decision for me.
