Just Putting It Out There........VOL7

I am a firm believer that relationships should be 50/50; a balance of give & take.  What happens when one party is doing most (if not all of the giving) and the other party just takes, takes, takes & gives very little or nothing in return because they feel the “giver” has it to give?  







Is it the “giver’s” fault for continuing to give, or is it the “taker’s” for continuing to take & not give as much in return as they receive?







What is the difference in “giving” in a new relationship versus a long-term relationship? Is it okay to “give” more in a long-term relationship since you have time vested & are {possibly} working toward a future together? What if you meet someone & they are going through & “hard time” in the beginning? Is it a good idea to “help out” (either financially, emotionally or physically)? If so, does that create an expectation of the “taker” for the “giver” to continue on with their “giving” ways?







Is it fair the “taker” to constantly ask or expects things (money, emotional support, etc.) once they realize they are in a relationship with a “giving” person? Is it fair for the “giver” to stop “giving” if they feel they are being taken for granted or if they are not getting as much in return?







Is it inconsiderate of the “taker” to never ask ,”What can I do for you?” Is it selfish or are they just being themselves & completely unaware of the “giver’s” needs? If the “giver” points out to the “taker” that there is not an equal balance of give & take & the “taker” makes no effort to change, does that mean they don’t care or are they unable to change?  







Can a constant “taker” see the need for change? Can a person prone to “give” stop their “giving” ways when it is not being reciprocated?







If the “giver” & “taker” are truly in love does it matter? Does marriage make a difference?  







What are your thoughts?

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