Him & I, & The Rest of The World, Never Perfect! [Personal Reflection]

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"...And Philip too does not know that I look up to him (and again, like a younger sibling might look up to the older one). But the funny thing is that he has two sisters and no brothers which leaves me space to be a "brother" to him despite no relation in blood. Good thing too! We share some common ground:



Being the oldest. A life in a family with only sisters.



LOL.  



Besides, he needs some EXTRA male influence but he's going to expect a challenge to his privileged, male-centered ego: my just, feminist and egalitarian views.



To ho ho ho ho ho!!! ROTFL.    



I'm kidding. Although sometimes I think he and I can maintain a few sophisticated and friendly arguments if we had opposing viewpoints.



The first time I met this person was when I was a sophomore in high school. We weren't much as friends at the time. More like companions. Then as time went on it developed into what I call "comrades in war." War being high school life, I mean. We were partners. And we had good times and once again I won't share those with you all. It's invaluable to disclose.



Let's see now, what did I think of him? Philip has positive leadership qualities (and negative ones but I wouldn't dare tell him that unless I want him angry at me for mentioning weaknesses. But then it'll be something like a groupthink if I don't say a word and mindlessly agree with everyone. What will I do!?)



He's ambitious in comparison to his somewhat laziness but I think in a positive way spending some time for himself. He's intelligent in his own manner and a few other characteristics.



But he has this likelihood to be tendentious and if you don't know what tendentiousness means it means that you always stick to a certain opinion, perception, or thought without considering the facts and/or circumstances at all. In other words, he's biased. That's the closest, basic word to sum it up that I can think of. And sometimes I've seen or heard about him being a little bit too "harsh" but I won't elaborate on what I mean. These things he's been known to exhibit from his behavior and these I don't tolerate at times.



Yet even with these qualities I still accept him wholeheartedly. I want to because everyone in the world has their strengths and weaknesses including myself.



For example, everyone might interpret me as some really, really smart person who's balanced, accepting, well learned, perspicacious, adaptable, friendly, wise, civil, pensive, honest, fearless, eclectic, understanding, trustworthy, faithful to friends and family, polished, altruistic (a definite), and finally and most significantly modest and compassionate and I am actually all of these by the way. But even with these fine qualities I have I make mistakes too just like the next person.



As for my bad qualities:  



I'm quiet from time to time if you didn't know. I sometimes do a guy type of "pouting" if someone upsets me very badly. And whenever someone's out of line, even when I try to be nice, understanding, tolerant, and/or diplomatic at first and the person is still trying to mess around, I'll become feisty and you will not like how much I can be. Or if someone threatened anyone I cared about, a friend, family member, even a complete stranger, I've been known to be very protective. (I don't understand why but I think it's an automatic response of mine.) And the person who's doing the threatening, I'll try to be a gentleman the first time round and tell that person to lay off. However if that person continues, I may not appear much but I surely have the skills and experience to take you down and subdue you.  I can be a man's man without resorting to violence but I will defend if I'm physically threatened and left with no choice.



[Remember the time when I was 17 visiting Chicago?...



{private}



...Don't underestimate my potential.  Tsk.  Tsk.  Tsk.]



But I've never encountered a situation in which loved ones were in trouble. And thank goodness.



See everyone? I have a few weaknesses too, I'll confess.  I'm not perfect although I may seem so.



So, Philip's weak points, Philip's strong points, I respect ALL of him. Not some. All..."

Author's Notes/Comments: 

An excerpt from a personal reflection and I hope all of you out there who's care to read can do the same for others too: to accept them for who people are, good and bad.

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